Comments on: Chances http://cocainewidow.wordpress.com/2008/07/02/chances/ The Other Side Of Addiction Mon, 19 Oct 2009 00:40:56 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: cokewidow http://cocainewidow.wordpress.com/2008/07/02/chances/#comment-87 cokewidow Mon, 14 Jul 2008 21:58:47 +0000 http://cocainewidow.wordpress.com/?p=44#comment-87 Kelli, Thanks so much for writing. Sometimes I forget that when I sit down with my problems I am really not alone. I hate that you are going through this, but I think you are learning that yes, we have to sometimes be the only adult in the house. I am sure you love your husband, but take care of yourself first! Keep me posted! Kelli,

Thanks so much for writing. Sometimes I forget that when I sit down with my problems I am really not alone. I hate that you are going through this, but I think you are learning that yes, we have to sometimes be the only adult in the house. I am sure you love your husband, but take care of yourself first!

Keep me posted!

]]> By: Kelli http://cocainewidow.wordpress.com/2008/07/02/chances/#comment-86 Kelli Fri, 11 Jul 2008 19:28:33 +0000 http://cocainewidow.wordpress.com/?p=44#comment-86 I am glad to see your back to blogging. I read your blog everyday because I feel a connection with what you are saying. It is like your blogging my life. I am 28 years old with a 1 year old daughter and married to a coke addict in active addiction and sometimes active recovery. "People who have never been in my shoes might criticize me, saying that I should stick it out, stand by my man, be more understanding, be kinder to him, and most of all, be quiet." ----Nope, I completely understand the way you feel. Your husbands love for cocaine has far exceeded the love you felt when you first married. I understand the need to be happy, to feel in love again. You can only try so long before you have to love yourself more than you love the addict. I only hope that one day I can be as strong as you are and make this decision if the time and circumstances call upon it. I am glad to see your back to blogging. I read your blog everyday because I feel a connection with what you are saying. It is like your blogging my life.

I am 28 years old with a 1 year old daughter and married to a coke addict in active addiction and sometimes active recovery.

“People who have never been in my shoes might criticize me, saying that I should stick it out, stand by my man, be more understanding, be kinder to him, and most of all, be quiet.”

—-Nope, I completely understand the way you feel. Your husbands love for cocaine has far exceeded the love you felt when you first married. I understand the need to be happy, to feel in love again. You can only try so long before you have to love yourself more than you love the addict. I only hope that one day I can be as strong as you are and make this decision if the time and circumstances call upon it.

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